A woman having reproductive challenges goes through a wide range of emotions. To the average observer, that is anyone not undergoing those challenges, the extreme emotions may seem irrational. But fertility problems cause immeasurable stress both in the woman experiencing the problem first hand and her partner.
Fertility Problems and Friends and Family Members
Infertility is a difficult subject to talk about, particularly with those who have a vested interest in the outcome of the fertility journey, such as prospective grandparents. Joanne Horibe co-founded Conceivable Dreams, a group in Ontario, Canada lobbying to have the cost of in-vitro fertilization (IVF) covered by the provincial government.
Infertility should be viewed as simply a medical challenge. Disclosing one’s struggle with infertility to those closest to the situation should bring a new sensitivity and understanding to the communications between family and friends.
Being Around Babies is not Comfortable for Reproductively Challenged
Some women with infertility issues do not want to see, hear or talk about babies. Holding a baby does not make an infertile couple feel good. It has the opposite effect of acting only as a reminder of what is lost.
The misconception that women who want a baby will be inspired or buoyed by being around pregnant women is at the root of the emotional distress of infertile couples.
Strategies to Deal with the Emotions of Infertility
The most important thing to note is that many women are affected by difficulty conceiving or maintaining a pregnancy. According to the Infertility Awareness Association of Canada (IAAC), one Canadian couple in six is unable to conceive in the first 12 months of trying. The IAAC also point out that the inability to conceive may be the most profound medical and emotional challenge a couple may ever face.
Utilizing support groups and talking to women and couples undergoing similar experiences can be the first step in allaying some of the stress.
No matter how the journey to motherhood unfolds, arming oneself with as many coping tools as possible can make the ultimate destination seem within reach.
